"Can you remember the last time you were in love? Your heart went ahhhh. It was such a wonderful feeling. It's the same thing with loving yourself except that you will never leave. Once you have love for yourself, it's with you for the rest of your life, so you want to make it the best relationship you can have."
- Louise Hay
I love this quote. Especially how Louise points out that when you have love for yourself, that love will never leave you...
Because it's so true that when you rely on someone to love you from the outside, you have no control over the constancy and quality of that attention. (Even though you might try to control it!)
But when you can comfort, love and cherish yourself, no matter what happens in your life...
You will have YOU.
I know you've heard it before, but it's so important and fundamental that it needs repeating...
Your relationship with YOU is the most important relationship.
Every other relationship will reflect this primary connection.
So if you're hungry for love, or feeling lonely... you are really craving your connection with YOU, which is the same as feeling connected with God / The Universe / Your Source. When you feel lonely, you feel you are missing something and you are trying to get it from the outside. It's at these times that you'll get clingy and needy, and instead of attracting the love you want, through the law of magnetics, you'll actually repel it!
Even if you're in a relationship you can observe this phenomenon; You want nothing more than your partner to come and give you some love, you need that love... but instead, they give you the opposite!! This is because you are magnetically repelling them! They can't help it!
When you turn your magnet around and start loving yourself, whether single or not, you become irresistible.
I remember lying in bed with my former partner and wanting desperately for him to put his arms around me and give me a cuddle. I didn't want to seem needy or clingy, so I started talking to myself in my head, telling myself all the things I wanted and needed to hear to make me feel loved. It made me feel all warm and cosy. And then my man rolled over and put his arms around me.... Magic!
And when I broke up with my first love at the age of 20, I remember feeling lonely, empty, and desperate for love! I missed his arms around me, his attention and his friendship so much, but I knew that we needed to be apart. So at night, in bed, I would energetically and physically wrap my own arms around myself in a warm embrace and tell myself all the things I needed to hear, and wanted to hear from him. It made me feel so much better. And after a short time, the void of my missing partner was filled with myself. I felt so empowered. I was filled with an unshakeable confidence that no-one could touch or tamper with.
4 quick ways to feel more in love with yourself and connected right now...
If you take 10 minutes to give any of these tools a go, and you will feel a little better about yourself. If you keep practising things like this regularly, you can profoundly shift your vibration, your point of attraction, and therefore, your whole life!
Susan Harrington-Baker is an International Inspirational Leader, Teacher and Intuitive from Christchurch, New Zealand.