Oh my gosh, going down the pathway of motherhood again has been a massive teacher for me!
My little girl is 16 months old now. So adorable. I love her more and more. But it's been far from easy. The hardest parts being the periods of sleep deprivation due to teething or colds.
The thing is, I know what it's like to feel really connected and healthy and vibrant, so I find it so hard to accept the days when I have to scrape my brain off the pavement and jumpstart it in the microwave just to feel alive. I know life can feel much better than that, which is frustrating. And frustrating because it's so hard to make any decent progress with my business (or anything) when I'm not getting enough sleep, and I really love my work.
So how have I coped with it for this blimmin long???
My guardian angel summed it up in a meditation of mine recently, she said, "There's no hurry. Be like water; ebbing and flowing and flexible, and then you will retain your alignment much more easily."
It's so true. I have learned to live like this; acceptance, trust, letting go, going with the flow because this is the only way I can stay in alignment when the going gets tough! If I started fighting my situation, things would get pretty bad, pretty fast.
Do you have a situation in your life that you don't particularly like but can't really do anything about? Try surrender. You'll save so much energy, and you'll open yourself to the gift that your situation is seeking to give to you.
Whenever you catch yourself struggling, trying, exerting force, straining to get somewhere... Stop. Come back to alignment, which is an inner feeling of well being and connectedness, and things will start to flow from there.
There's this little exercise I've been doing all week that has been helping me keep on the right track. It connects me directly to my deeper needs. The needs that, if met, will make the most difference to my well being, and therefore, everything else!
Because our feelings are always communicating to us what we need to do to stay in balance, but they often go ignored, or we push them aside in order to be liked and accepted by others, or we are so out of touch with ourselves that we don't hear them at all!
Read on to test this quick little exercise, it takes less than a minute, it might work for you too.
Connect with your Deeper Self through your Inner Child...
Imagine you are sitting in your favourite café. You are at a small table for 2.
Imagine the smells, the music, the ambience and enjoying your favourite drink.
Close your eyes and picture it now, don't read ahead, just do this first.
Seated across the table from you is your inner child.
Again don't read ahead. Picture it now.
Go with the first image or thought or knowing of your inner child that pops in your head right now without analysing it. Boom.
What age roughly is he/she?
What does he/she need?
Feel it out, know it, see it in their eyes... It's obvious. Don't over-think it and make it hard.
What does he/she need?
You have just received your own personal 'hack' to your own healing.
Your inner child has just given you the key, the most direct route to your life balance and fulfilment.
If you act upon what your inner child needs and give this to yourself, it will bring you back on track.
It's really so simple.
Sometimes as adults we get lost and out of touch with ourselves. We get so busy and distracted and off course.
But your inner child is the part of you that remains authentic. Is in touch with his/her feelings and needs and knows what she wants.
If you're an experienced meditator, you might want to go further and imagine your inner child receiving everything she needs. See her happy and fulfilled in your imagination.
This will bring a feeling of wholeness to you.
Yes you are just making it up. You're allowed to. It's called creating your reality.
Fulfil your inner child's needs as a priority in your own life and feel the balance and peace returning.
Susan Harrington-Baker is an International Inspirational Leader, Teacher and Intuitive from Christchurch, New Zealand.