There's an old Sufi saying that goes a little something like this.... There was a man who rode his donkey from town to town asking the people he came into contact with the same question... Where's my donkey?

What a ridiculous question seeing he was clearly riding his donkey! But the man had been riding the donkey for so long he had forgotten it was there!

This is what it's like for us and our subconscious mind... We are walking around with all these habits and issues and old wounds that are so normal to us that we don't even know they're there any more!

Until.... Someone / something pushes our buttons and then a deeply buried feeling starts moving within us, the donkey is trying to get our attention.
We say, Oh God! Why do I feel this way? Why am I so angry? Why am I so upset?! 

We don't know!! So... it must be their fault! And then we project blame out into the Universe (and quite often to our poor partner or person closest to us) in an attempt to disown and get rid of the feeling. How dare they make me feel this way!

The truth is, what was really happening was a little piece of you was actually screaming for help, for love, to be heard and understood and freed from the chains of your psyche forever. It was trying to move and grow and become more than what it was being limited to.

The truth is that a long time ago, something happened in your life that you couldn't appropriately process at the time, and so the wound of that experience remained buried in your energy field for the future you to process, when you were old enough and wise enough to see the situation differently.

And every time this feeling gets triggered within you, it's an opportunity to heal, grow, and yes... actually change the past!

This is how things could have gone... A feeling gets triggered... Oooh it's raw! It's urgent! And you really feel its their fault, you're the victim here! But instead of attack and blame, or retreat within yourself in shame... you sit, and you feel. You start a communication with the part of you inside who feels this way, and you start the process of growth.

Instead of attacking the person you felt victimised you, you explain to them what's going on within you and what you are working on processing... This creates intimacy and empathy, instead of defensiveness and a counter attack (which is so hard to bear when you're already feeling vulnerable).

It may take one day or one year to evolve this buried wound, but no matter how long it takes, it is the best thing you will ever do. In fact it's the only thing you are here to do!  - To grow! To become more than your wounds, to be the best version of you that you can possibly be!
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Every time you respond to your pain, instead if react to it, you become lighter, happier and much more connected to the Divine, your own Source of Love.

I was ruminating on this question yesterday over my morning coffee and it uplifted me so much that I wanted to share it with you.

I've noticed that we all (myself included) get a little lost from time to time at certain stages of our lives - especially when we experience sudden change, or when we have fallen into a loop of trying to please others, or when we've fallen into habits of numbing ourselves rather than facing ourselves... We end up feeling unclear, foggy, and disorientated because we have lost touch with ourselves, our own essence. It happens to all of us, but here's a quick remedy...

Asking yourself this question, really asking it, can shine a light through that murky lost energy and show you exactly what the authentic YOU wants and needs in order to thrive... And once you've discovered this, it's up to you to be brave enough and crazy enough and adventurous enough to step up and claim it!
 
"You're mad, bonkers, completely off your head. But I'll tell you a secret. All the best people are."
- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
 
So the question is:

What kind of life would you be most proud of living?

If you were fully living up to your potential, living in your authenticity and integrity and so proud of yourself for everything you had achieved and were currently living...

What would your life look like?

For me it's all about being honest and authentic and living my truth. My vision of a life that I'm really proud of is one where I am in consistent, solid alignment with my Source, with my truth, with my intuition, with my Guidance... and all my relationships and work and everything extends from this place. I make an amazing income sharing my truth, insights and creativity! I am so proud of myself for getting paid for doing what I totally love, I'm so proud of myself for being brave enough to speak my truth and take risks and put my creations out there for the world to use. And I'm so proud and humbled by all the amazing feedback I receive, for bringing people together, for being a catalyst for others growth. I'm proud of myself for continually facing myself when times are tough, for holding my own hand and slaying my own internal dragons. I'm so proud of the beautiful eco-house that I helped to build, that feels personal to me, and I'm proud of my amazing garden that is not only a sanctuary, but feeds my whole family... I could go on... But you get the idea. 

Those are my visions, what would yours be? What's the life that you would be proud to live?

Now, on your bike!

You don't have to know how, all you need to do is make the decision, set the intention, take steps faithfully in that direction and continue to inspire yourself. Life will take care of the rest...
 
"Only he who attempts the absurd is capable of achieving the impossible."
- Miguel de Unamuno

How are your relationships?

​Do you agree that relationships, whether with your partner, family member, friend or workmate, can be so amazing when they are going well, but so challenging, triggering, frustrating, demanding and head wrecking when they are not?!

You know that saying: Relationships are the best mirrors...

I hate that saying.

But annoyingly, it is true. As I will unravel for you shortly...

So, someone you spend a good chunk of your time with has offended, irritated or upset you and you want to resolve it because you're sick of thinking about it, you're sick of the situation bringing you down.

How do you go about this? How can you address this issue without it turning into a defensive, angry fight that only makes matters worse and adds more fuel to the fire?

Ok, this is really hard, and less than 2% of the people who read this will actually try this out, really give it a go, because not many people have the patience or will, or courage even, to attempt it. But I'm going to share it anyway, because someday, you might be so fed up with going around in circles that you force yourself to try it...

BEFORE, you address the person with your qualm, you need to sit with yourself and meditate on the feelings that this person is triggering within you.

Yeah, I know. You want to stop reading now right? So many of us would rather stab someone in the neck in a heated rage, and go through all the consequences that would bring, rather than just sit with themselves and feel for 10 minutes.

But this is the answer, if you can handle it.

You need to take a deep breath, grow some balls and buckle up with yourself.

Connect with yourself honestly and openly and really listen to that feeling of hurt and everything it wants to say about the situation. Do this objectively, as if you were listening to someone else. You'll find that when you relax into it, it's not that hard. If you take all the labels and judgements away, it's just a feeling, an energy moving within you.

After you've heard everything it has to say, find out what the feeling actually needs. This is the key...

And now, where, in your own life, have you not been giving this to yourself?



Let me give you a couple of examples to demonstrate what I am saying...



#1. Sarah feels as though her husband doesn't give her enough attention. He used to in the early days, but recently he doesn't want to cuddle like he used to, he seems to not respect her as much and doesn't notice it when she puts on a sexy dress. She feels unloved and uncared for, rejected.

As she sits with this feeling, she feels it coming from her heart area. She listens to all the sad, lonely, hurt thoughts emanating from here, and then she tunes into what the heart, the feeling needs.

It needs more meaningful connection.

She realises she hasn't been seeing friends much lately and hasn't been doing the things that make her feel passionate and alive like she used to. She's been relying on her husband to make her feel that way instead.

Now, instead of feeling angry towards her husband, she feels sorry for putting all her eggs in his basket and expecting him to be her only source of love, and decides to get more involved in the community and do what she loves more.

She shares her realisations with her husband that night (instead of accusing him of doing something wrong) which encourages him to share from his heart too, and she feels close to him again.





#2. Phillip really wants to be successful and is very motivated in his job, but he feels his boss is always undermining his ideas, criticising him and devaluing him so he never gets the chance to shine. He wants to call a meeting with his boss and tell him where he can stick his job, but he sits with his feelings first.

He feels anger and a big block in his throat like he's being strangled. He listens to what this area and feeling has to say and realises that it needs someone to believe in him, to believe he's good enough. In other words, he realises that he doesn't believe in himself or think he's good enough, and he's been looking to his boss to give him that validation.

After realising this he drops being angry with his boss and focuses on believing in himself through affirmations, meditations and coaching.

Through this process he has a really good idea which he fully believes in. He takes the idea to his boss in a detached way, with out needing his boss to agree with him. His boss loves it, and loves his new aura of confidence and gives him a promotion.





In both of the above examples, the issue was resolved internally before it was actually expressed to the person involved, if at all.

​And you can see how the issue that both Sarah and Phillip had with their hubby and boss was just an indicator of what was going on internally for themselves (that whole relationships as mirrors thing) - the person who seemed to be the problem turned out to be actually giving them the gift of showing them where they needed to work on themselves.

When they chose to sit with themselves and listen to their feelings instead of project them angrily and unconsciously outward, they were able to receive that gift.

What gifts are the people around you trying to give you, especially the super annoying, hurtful, ignorant ones??!!

Relationships are a MASSIVE opportunity for personal growth that a lot of us don't take advantage of because its so much easier to blame and accuse, and it takes courage to really look at yourself and take responsibility for what you find... but you'll keep going around and around in the same rut until you do...

Remember when you were a kid and you asked your friends: 
If you had 3 wishes, what would you wish for?
There was always one annoying friend who said: I'd wish for infinite wishes!

That friend was actually pretty smart... Why go for one thing when you can have unlimited access to it all?

The cool thing is that inside of you is an energetic magnet, it's either attracting stuff or repelling it. If you can get this magnet to grow in its attractive ability, this inner magnet can work like an infinite wish giver!

Sounds fantastical, but there is truth in what I am saying... Let me explain further...

People are drawn magnetically, unconsciously, to things that are loved and valued. Think of an object for sale in a shop... If it is neglected on a shelf at the back, growing dust and rust, the customers are not going to want to buy it - who would want that thing? They probably wouldn't even notice it in the first place. But what about the object at the front of the shop? In the window. It's polished, loved and admired by the shopkeeper everyday, placed in the perfect light and talked about with genuine pride. People are drawn to this object, they feel it's value, they will pay top dollar to own it

YOU can have the same pulling power with people, opportunities and abundance of all kinds... You just need to look after, value and treasure YOU. Polish and care for yourself, love and respect yourself, hold yourself with high regard - not in an egotistical way because that is just a mask for the real feelings of neediness and lack - but in a genuine, heart-felt, meaningful way.

This attention to yourself, this self-love, turns your inner magnet around so that is on ATTRACT, rather than REPEL. As you pour attention into you, as you fill up your cup, as you meet your needs, you become an attractive force and everyone wants you around! And you actually HAVE the energy and love to give to them!

You can tell when your magnet is set to REPEL because you feel you need something, you feel you are lacking something, you are reaching and grasping for someone or something. Even though your need may be justified, it's not productive, and it's not going to get you want you want because you are REPELLING!! As soon as you realise you are doing this, bring yourself back to looking after yourself instead.

There's nothing more powerful than going for your dreams alongside a deep commitment to self love. This is the magic recipe. Because self love fills your needs, and lack of need - fullness - attracts all the goodies to your door!

So are you attracting? Are you repelling?

If you are feeling good, chances are you are attracting. If you are feeling in need, feeling that you lack, you are repelling.

Here's what to do...

1. Turn off your phone and distance yourself from other distractions. Commit to taking some time for just YOU. Just YOU and YOU. You deserve, and need your own attention!
2. Sit with yourself and listen to yourself. What is the feeling? What is the pain? What is the need? Just listen as though you were listening to a friend, without judging yourself for feeling the way you do. How do you really feel? What do you really think? What do you actually need, deep down??
3. Now commit to giving this to yourself, whatever you need, actually follow through and you will get the heart-warming feeling of self love rushing through you. You'll be filling your own cup.
4. Do the previous 3 steps as often as you can!

As you care for the magnet inside of you, as you pour attention and care into yourself, rather than reaching out of yourself, you magnet will be on ATTRACT, and magic happens in this state, your infinite wishes centre is activated! Because you don't need so much, you experience having, and the possibilities are endless.

Does this sound familiar....

Something happens or continues to happen in your life that you don't like. You feel a negative, heavy, stuck feeling due to this. You moan to one of your friends about it and your friend agrees that you are so hard done by and shares their own story of woe (which makes you feel bonded to them). You feel reinforced and supported in your viewpoint of victimhood. 
You go out into the world, in your victim frame of mind, and you attract to you more evidence of your victimhood - more things to complain about - and you say: "See, I told you I had such a hard life!"

The victim mentality is the most seductive, most elusive and most pervasive frame of mind us Earth beings get sucked into unconsciously again and again... Because it's really hard when it looks like things are happening TO us, and it's not our fault. When we are sure it is their behaviour that is causing the problem, not ours, why should we change?

It's ok to dwell in victim-hood. There's no judgement. But you have to agree that it's a pretty shitty feeling to live in isn't it? It sucks feeling so powerless! Even if you still do really believe it's not your fault and there's nothing you can do about it, eventually you are going to get sick of having that poor-me feeling lingering around you like a bad smell.

I'm here to help you if you are ready to feel better again, alive again, powerful again... If you are ready to move out of that stagnant dynamic you've been living in.

You see, the divine, beautiful, liberating truth is that: 

It doesn't actually matter what is happening outside of you...

You, yes you! Are endowed with the ability to profoundly command, direct and affect your circumstances through taking control of your inner state of being.

It is actually like magic! The surprising, and sometimes miraculous shifts that can take place on the outside once you make the decision to do this.

As I said in my last email... You truly can't control some things in your life, but you can control your reaction or response to them.

Only YOU are in charge of your inner world, no one else.

In ANY tricky, crappy, impossible situation... YOU have in-built power and freedom.


Are you ready to create rather than complain? If so, I've simplified a process into a few easy steps for you...

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CREATE RATHER THAN COMPLAIN...

1. First of all, recognise that you have slipped into victim mode (as seductive and 'real' as that reality may be!) How do you know you're in victim mode? Because you are complaining about something. Say to yourself, I'm sick of feeling like this! I'm now choosing to take charge of my Inner Universe. I believe that the Universe is flexible and adaptable and completely unlimited. I'm going to create what I DO want, rather than complain about what I don't want.
2. ​Ask yourself, what is the highest and best outcome to this situation? What do I want and need to happen here? Let yourself get inspired and dream big. Notice if doubts and limits pop up trying to tell you it can't happen, and just place them aside for now.
3. Then close your eyes and relax your body. Imagine yourself in a beautiful nature sanctuary and enjoy the feeling of being here for a few moments. (This will get you out of the thinking, busy brain) Then visualise clearly what you would LIKE to happen. Really feel it and get into it. Make precise pictures of things resolving, resources flowing to you, peaceful resolutions to conflict, the outcome you want presenting itself etc. Don't worry about whether what you are visualising is realistic, just get clear on what you want and visualise it and feel it in your body and emotions NOW, as though it's already here, it's already happened.
4. Do this little visualisation exercise everyday for as long as it takes for things to shift - it won't be that long if you really focus and go for it! Stick to it.
5. Follow any intuitive guidance, gut feelings, prompts from the Universe that you start getting and take action on them.
6. Be open, flexible and adaptable about how the resolution shows up... it may not come in a form that you expect!

I used this process to manifest a sum of money many years ago. In a seemingly hopeless situation, the money came, and the outcome I had been visualising came true.

There's a video about that here.

I recently listened to a podcast about taking responsibility for your emotions, about not blaming other people or situations for how you are feeling.

This is crucial because when you blame something or someone outside of you for how you are feeling, you are giving that person or thing the power to make you unhappy.  Whether you realise it or not, you are playing the victim, you are letting the person or the thing control you emotionally. You've given your power away.

It's a bit tricky because sometimes it really does seem as though something outside of you really is to blame, and it's really not your fault and there really is nothing you can do about it!

I was in one of those tricky situations... The reason I was listening to the podcast was because I was feeling victimised by being woken up by my baby at night. I was looking for another perspective, instead of blame, a reminder on how to deal with it emotionally.... Because to my tired brain, it was her fault I was being woken up! I mean SHE was waking me up, I'm wasn't doing it to myself!! But thinking blame thoughts doesn't feel good and it just makes life harder...

After listening to the podcast, it was clear to me that her waking me up is something I cannot control (see my last blog on the inner child!), but I can control my reaction or my response to that situation. And this is key... I can control my reaction or my response to that situation.

The podcast also mentioned a question... It said that when you are all pent up and totally about to lose your rag with someone or something, stop and ask yourself this question... What's the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?

That really struck a chord with me, because this question has been asked many times in different ways; The Conversations with God books say What would love do now? And Teal Swan (an inspirational You Tuber) says What would someone who loved themselves do? Essentially they are all saying the same thing, and asking of you the same thing, which I know is very, very powerful indeed.

So I tried it.

That night, little bubba kept me awake for a 2 hour period in the middle of the night. I went in and out of her room again and again rather unsuccessfully trying to settle her and teach her to go back to sleep on her own.

Usually, after about an hour I would be losing my composure, feeling so over it, feeling like a total victim, complaining and cursing and ready to totally lose it - pure knee jerk reactions - but this time is was different.

Every time I went back to my room after trying to settle her, I would ask myself that question over and over again... What's the most loving thing I can do for myself right now? What's the most loving thing I can do for myself right now? What's the most loving thing I can do for myself right now?

And oh my gosh.... Magic. It was beautiful. Just the act of asking the question had me delving into a deep feeling of love and protection and patience every time. I didn't react! I didn't even get pissed off! I felt serene and totally composed! The answer was always, "The most loving thing you can do for yourself is stay calm, stay consistent". So that's what I did, and I felt as though I was supported and loved throughout the whole saga, because I was there for myself and giving to myself and caring about me FIRST, and then I had the capacity to deal with her, because I felt complete.

It's a difficult thing to describe, so instead I invite you to give it a go. and experience it for yourself... Use one of those questions, whichever feels the most natural to you, or make up your own version, and practice using it to make decisions or to support you when you are getting triggered by people, or by life.
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It's so powerful. So, so powerful. But you really have to focus and dig deep and go for it. Usually when your are in poor-me-victim mode, you don't feel like doing anything to help yourself, you just feel like complaining and bitching about what's wrong. It actually takes quite a lot of strength to convince yourself to try this at those times, but the results can be life changing. 

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Oh my gosh, going down the pathway of motherhood again has been a massive teacher for me!
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My little girl is 16 months old now. So adorable. I love her more and more. But it's been far from easy. The hardest parts being the periods of sleep deprivation due to teething or colds.

The thing is, I know what it's like to feel really connected and healthy and vibrant, so I find it so hard to accept the days when I have to scrape my brain off the pavement and jumpstart it in the microwave just to feel alive. I know life can feel much better than that, which is frustrating. And frustrating because it's so hard to make any decent progress with my business (or anything) when I'm not getting enough sleep, and I really love my work.

So how have I coped with it for this blimmin long???

Surrender.

My guardian angel summed it up in a meditation of mine recently, she said, "There's no hurry. Be like water; ebbing and flowing and flexible, and then you will retain your alignment much more easily."

It's so true. I have learned to live like this; acceptance, trust, letting go, going with the flow because this is the only way I can stay in alignment when the going gets tough! If I started fighting my situation, things would get pretty bad, pretty fast.

Do you have a situation in your life that you don't particularly like but can't really do anything about? Try surrender. You'll save so much energy, and you'll open yourself to the gift that your situation is seeking to give to you.

Whenever you catch yourself struggling, trying, exerting force, straining to get somewhere... Stop. Come back to alignment, which is an inner feeling of well being and connectedness, and things will start to flow from there.

There's this little exercise I've been doing all week that has been helping me keep on the right track. It connects me directly to my deeper needs. The needs that, if met, will make the most difference to my well being, and therefore, everything else!

Because our feelings are always communicating to us what we need to do to stay in balance, but they often go ignored, or we push them aside in order to be liked and accepted by others, or we are so out of touch with ourselves that we don't hear them at all!

Read on to test this quick little exercise, it takes less than a minute, it might work for you too.

 

Connect with your Deeper Self through your Inner Child...

Imagine you are sitting in your favourite café. You are at a small table for 2.


Imagine the smells, the music, the ambience and enjoying your favourite drink.


Close your eyes and picture it now, don't read ahead, just do this first.


Seated across the table from you is your inner child.


Again don't read ahead. Picture it now.


Go with the first image or thought or knowing of your inner child that pops in your head right now without analysing it. Boom.


What age roughly is he/she?





What does he/she need?





Feel it out, know it, see it in their eyes... It's obvious. Don't over-think it and make it hard.


What does he/she need?





Voila!


You have just received your own personal 'hack' to your own healing.

Your inner child has just given you the key, the most direct route to your life balance and fulfilment.

If you act upon what your inner child needs and give this to yourself, it will bring you back on track.

It's really so simple.

Sometimes as adults we get lost and out of touch with ourselves. We get so busy and distracted and off course.

But your inner child is the part of you that remains authentic. Is in touch with his/her feelings and needs and knows what she wants.

If you're an experienced meditator, you might want to go further and imagine your inner child receiving everything she needs. See her happy and fulfilled in your imagination.

This will bring a feeling of wholeness to you.

Yes you are just making it up. You're allowed to. It's called creating your reality.
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Fulfil your inner child's needs as a priority in your own life and feel the balance and peace returning.

Greetings.

I want to chat with you about the art of receiving... Because I know that right now, like everybody else on the planet, you are wanting to receive more of something in your life, whether it be love, money, joy, enlightenment, connection, recognition, freedom or whatever!

Maybe you're feeling stuck or lacking in some specific area... and if so, please read on, this information may help you to see your situation from a different perspective...

And WARNING... confrontational ideas are presented here that may challenge you!


The art of receiving is typically defined as moving into a space of allowing where you open up and let the good stuff in. You may need to work through your own blocks to receiving, like low self esteem, or issues around lack, but once you let down the barriers, all the good stuff you've ever dreamed of is going to pour right in... right?

Well, yes.... and No...

It's not as simple as that. Because life is not as straight forward as that. Shit happens. Stuff you didn't expect shows up. Backlashes, arguments, hard times, death, accidents, depression, betrayal and so on...

When you have worked through some blocks and you are feeling internally balanced, open, optimistic, connected and worthy, you are in the prime state to receive, and amazing things usually show up when you can maintain this emotional and mental state. Why? Because you are not resisting Life, you are not fighting Life. The vibe that your are ultimately emitting is "Everything is beautiful. I feel good. I love my life. I am happy." And that gorgeous vibe is going to be magnetically irressistable to gorgeous experiences, people and opportunities, which seem to show up everywhere and it just feels natural and normal that they should.

But what happens when things don't go as planned, when something pops up that you definitely didn't order and most certainly did not want to ever experience? Because, shit happens. It really does. To everyone.

What happens to your gorgeous vibe then? 

It often (unless you are a spiritual master) crashes down into victim mode... "Oh why me? I can't believe this is happening to me! It's not my fault. Poor me."

And THIS, dear *|FNAME|*, is where the art of receiving (in the way that I know it) can really help you, if you are open minded enough to let it....

Because the art of receiving is not just about letting in the good stuff like moolah and adoration and success... it's about letting it all in.

Why on Earth would I want to let in depression? Or a car accident? Of the death of my friend? You ask...

Because if you don't, you move into a space of conflict with Life, with What Is, and your lovely vibe significantly decreases. You feel out of sorts, disconnected, disorientated and resentful.

Consider...

What if Life truly was a benevolent being and we could absolutely TRUST whatever is showing up to be perfect, good, loving and exactly where we need to be? Really trust it.

What if we could constantly live in this state of trust, constantly surrendering and flowing and learning as we allow the difficult experiences to wash through our open arms, receiving their gifts as they go?

What if Life was always giving to us? Always. But we didn't realise because we were so focused on what things SHOULD look like?

What if all the discord we experience was actually of our own making, generated through our own minds and our own resistance to what is showing up?

I believe the true art of receiving is ultimately dwelling in greater and greater levels of trust with Life. In this way you can maintain your high vibration, no matter what happens, and you are more often than not, in your prime receiving state.

The true art of receiving is not necessarily about striving for more, it's about accepting more of What Is, bringing peace and satisfaction into the present moment, rather than needing something to happen before we can feel those feelings. 

By allowing the difficult things into our lives, I don't mean that we become a passive doormat that lets everyone and everything walk all over us. I mean that we trust and accept our circumstances as part of the larger order of things. We work through the issues and face the challenges and focus on gratefully receiving the gift that Life is trying to give us.

This switch in attitude releases so much resistance and negativity, and we realise we receive so much from challenging times, they are just as valuable as the goodies.

Chakras are spinning wheels of life force energy within you. Each of them governs major aspects of...

who you are (1st chakra)

how you feel (2nd chakra)

what you do (3rd chakra)

how you love (4th chakra)

what you say (5th chakra)

​what you know (6th chakra)

​how you perceive your
​connection with the Universe (7th chakra)

​Prana (life force) moves through our bodies through pathways called meridians or channels or nadis. There are thousands of these channels in our bodies through which this life force is moving. Big channels and little channels, like the branches of a tree, all moving and flowing with prana.
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​There are centers within all these pathways where lots of channels of energy converge - these are called energy centres, or chakras. They are like whirlpools, with many channels coming together in a swirling central area.

​The energy flows into the spinning centre, and then flows back out again, always moving and flowing... at least that's the ideal.

​There are 7 main chakras, and many, many other smaller ones. Each chakra reflects a different area of your life.

It is possible for our chakras to become blocked (no energy flowing through), excessive (too much energy flowing through) or deficient (only a little bit of energy flowing through), depending on how we are dealing with life as it unfolds.

​They cannot be blamed for dysfunction or imbalance in your life, they simply reflect that there is a dysfunction going on, and as such, they are great tools for self awareness and healing. If we connect with our chakras and ascertain their state of health, we can see which areas of our life need some attention.

Take my chakra quiz to see which of your chakras needs your attention...

Taking the following quiz will help you to see which of your chakras is not functioning with as much health and vitality as it could...

​Rate each of the statements on a scale of 1 to 10 - 1 being that you 100% disagree, and 10 being that you 100% agree.

​The chakras that receive the lowest scores could do with some clearing, healing and energising. And the chakras with high scores are healthy and functioning well. The 'unhealthy' chakras are pointing to areas of your life that are out of balance and need your attention if you are to feel fully happy and thriving. They show you where you have blocks and issues and old wounds...

​See my meditation page for meditations that can help you with these chakras, or come and have a session with me, via Skype or in person, and together we can clear, unblock, heal and energise the chakra/s in question.

Enjoy!


Base Chakra

I feel I have every right to be here
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have feel entitled to HAVE
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have a good relationship with my physical body
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

Money, prosperity and abundance flow easily in my life
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I feel secure and trusting of Life
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Base Chakra... click here


Sacral Chakra

I allow myself to enjoy pleasurable things without guilt
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10​

I have a good relationship with my feelings / emotions
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I enjoy real intimacy in relationships
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have a healthy sexuality
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I am in touch with my needs, passions and desires
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Sacral Chakra, click here


Solar Plexus Chakra

I have a strong sense of personal power
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I can take risks and meet challenges
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I am comfortable with being an individual, being different
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have good willpower
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have good self discipline
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Solar Plexus... click here


Heart Chakra

I am able to forgive myself when I mess up
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have lasting healthy relationships
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I accept myself just as I am
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I give and receive love equally
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I understand myself and feel connected to all the different parts of me
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Heart Chakra... click here


Throat Chakra

I have a good connection to my own personal truth
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I can communicate from the heart when necessary
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I can contribute and ask questions freely when in a group of people
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I can express myself truthfully and authentically
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I am ok with being silent  - I don’t need to keep chattering because I’m feeling nervous
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Throat Chakra... click here


Third Eye Chakra

I have a beautiful vision for my life
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I am able to visualise - see and create mental images
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I am open minded and can accept lots of possible opinions and options
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I am able to calm my mind and have clarity
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have started to develop my psychic abilities
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Third Eye... click here


Crown Chakra

I enjoy searching for meaning beyond myself
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have lots of good ideas, but don’t get overwhelmed by too much thinking
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I have integrated my spirituality into my everyday life
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I feel a sense of oneness with the Universe
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

I enjoy having mystical experiences, but don’t use these as a form of escape or as a way to avoid
1    2    3    4    5    6    7    8    9    10

​Meditation to help the Crown Chakra... click here


​Contact me to discuss how I can help you release issues, baggage, and old wounds from your chakras, bringing more confidence and balance into your life. This benefits your health and well being on all levels.

Wishing you all the best!!

​xxx

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I love this quote. Especially how Louise points out that when you have love for yourself, that love will never leave you... 

​Because it's so true that when you rely on someone to love you from the outside, you have no control over the constancy and quality of that attention. (Even though you might try to control it!)

But when you can comfort, love and cherish yourself, no matter what happens in your life... 

You will have YOU.

I know you've heard it before, but it's so important and fundamental that it needs repeating...

Your relationship with YOU is the most important relationship.

Every other relationship will reflect this primary connection.

​So if you're hungry for love, or feeling lonely... you are really craving your connection with YOU, which is the same as feeling connected with God / The Universe / Your Source. When you feel lonely, you feel you are missing something and you are trying to get it from the outside. It's at these times that you'll get clingy and needy, and instead of attracting the love you want, through the law of magnetics, you'll actually repel it!

​Even if you're in a relationship you can observe this phenomenon; You want nothing more than your partner to come and give you some love, you need that love... but instead, they give you the opposite!! This is because you are magnetically repelling them! They can't help it! 

​When you turn your magnet around and start loving yourself, whether single or not, you become irresistible.

​I remember lying in bed with my former partner and wanting desperately for him to put his arms around me and give me a cuddle. I didn't want to seem needy or clingy, so I started talking to myself in my head, telling myself all the things I wanted and needed to hear to make me feel loved. It made me feel all warm and cosy. And then my man rolled over and put his arms around me.... Magic!

​And when I broke up with my first love at the age of 20, I remember feeling lonely, empty, and desperate for love! I missed his arms around me, his attention and his friendship so much, but I knew that we needed to be apart. So at night, in bed, I would energetically and physically wrap my own arms around myself in a warm embrace and tell myself all the things I needed to hear, and wanted to hear from him. It made me feel so much better. And after a short time, the void of my missing partner was filled with myself. I felt so empowered. I was filled with an unshakeable confidence that no-one could touch or tamper with.


​4 quick ways to feel more in love with yourself and connected right now...

1. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you love and accept yourself as you are, right now. See your inner-child in the mirror. That innocent and vulnerable part of you that needs your love and approval, and give her that love and approval. Back yourself, feed yourself positive statements, otherwise no-one else will.
2. Pick up your favourite self-help / spirituality book and read until you feel better. If you don't have any, go to the library and get some that resonate with you.
3. Make a list of things that you are grateful for, things that ARE working out for you, things that you DO have... even the simplest and most obvious things. You'll soon realise that it's not as bad as it seems.
4. Think of someone who loves you... then imagine looking at yourself through their eyes. What do they appreciate about you?

​If you take 10 minutes to give any of these tools a go, and you will feel a little better about yourself. If you keep practising things like this regularly, you can profoundly shift your vibration, your point of attraction, and therefore, your whole life!

To me, THRIVING = having a purposeful dream and knowing you can make it a reality! Every day you take baby steps to get there whilst employing the Law of Attraction to help you. You go with the flow of the ups and downs and you keep believing and learning... This is living life as an empowered creator.

And my definition of depression is the opposite... it's having a dream but believing that you can't have it, you can't get there, you can't do it - for whatever reason. You feel out of touch with your direction, your purpose, your mojo... And feel like - what's the point??

​Obviously we all want to thrive... But how can we get to that sweet place of creating our dreams and living them if we actually don't know what our purpose or dream is? How do we find our purpose, our direction, our calling, our guided next step?



I want to lay this out for you now, clear and simple... Because there really is no mystery to this, the answer is always right in front of your face!



The next step on your path of purpose is to rise to whatever challenges are showing up in your life right now!!


Yep, that's it.


Even though it doesn't feel like it sometimes... we can trust what is showing up in our lives, even if it is unpleasant, because it is what we need to master in order to be the person we want to be, in order to be of most service to the planet, to do what we came here to do, and to thrive.

Let me give you an example... Louise Hay and Brandon Bays both had big tumors in their abdomens. Both of them decided to rise to the challenge and they healed those tumors. This got them on their path of purpose and they are now of massive help and service to the planet, thriving and in their element. Their cancer was actually a gift, as it directed them exactly to what they came here to do.

Nick Vujicic was born without arms and legs and wanted to end his life in his pre-adolescence. But instead he rose to the challenge and faced all his fears and doubts and is now extremely happy and on purpose, living a full life inspiring millions of people.

These are extreme examples, but you can apply this in your own life... What challenges do you know you need to face?

When I was 19 I thought I was going crazy. I didn't know that I was having a spiritual awakening. I faced all the darkness I was feeling and because of that hard time, I found my path of purpose and a feeling of love and connection that was unlike anything I had ever experienced.

We tend to think our purpose is something out there to be discovered sometime in the future, but not so. Your purpose is being communicated inside of you right now through your feelings, your desires, your knowings, your longings, your attractions, your challenges.

​So if you've lost touch with your purpose, you need to get back in touch with you! What challenges is Life asking you to grow through? What feelings have you been surpressing? What has that subtle voice of your gut instinct been trying to get through to you again and again? Get your head out of the sand and face the hard stuff you've been trying to avoid! Because you truly won't thrive until you do!

As you clean up the vibration of your current situation, your head rises out of the clouds where you can see a grander vision for your life, you're more confident, you're more connected, and are clearer about what you want... It's obvious!

As you are proactive about helping yourself, you attract miracles, help and love from everywhere.

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My beloved friends.

I want you to know that I am with you all. As you make changes in your lives, as you struggle in your relationships, as you seek to find time, and find peace... I am the soft breeze that whispers sweet relief, I am the voice of your heart. The voice that asks you to be kinder to yourself, to appreciate who you are and how far you've come, that urges you to keep going, even though things are tough. I help you remember that you are indeed loved, cherished, and so very looked after, more than you know.

I want you to know that as changes happen in your world, and in the world around you that these changes have been carefully considered by us in the angelic realm, the guardians of your precious reality. Everything that happens has a timely reason, and if you look more closely at the gifts that the change or circumstance is bringing, you will see our intentions and feel our reasons for actioning this change.

You are moving into a time of greater community on your planet, and the old will continue to be washed away to be replaced by something much lighter, brighter and harmoniously heart centered. Allow this process dear one, allow the old emotions and old patterns to be washed away, surrender them, you can trust they will be replaced with something beautiful.

We hold you all in such high regard and love you dearly, as you are indeed, our own. You're doing so well. So many of you worry over such insignificant things. Relax my dear one, everything is ok. We have you, lean on us.

Until next time, my dear, beloved one.
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I'm not massive on past-life stuff generally, I think that everything you need to know is being communicated to you now, through Life, through your body and your feelings...

However, last week I had a spontaneous past-life memory that has actually been so helpful and healing for me to re-member.

I was taking part in a webinar on the topic of 'Releasing Your Blocks to Wealth', and as I engaged in self-enquiry around my own prosperity blocks, I started having this interesting feeling that I didn't really understand... It was a feeling I've felt many times before, but have just dismissed... a feeling of rebellion against the current money system, and simultaneously feeling like I don't belong or fit into that system. And then boom, a vivid vision and memory came back to me...

I was an American Indian woman and the white people had just come and taken my land. My tribe and I were ushered off to live somewhere else and our whole way of life was shunned, and completely disregarded and disrupted.

I was so angry.

So angry that I vowed to never be a part of their ignorant money system that had no regard for my values or for the Earth. I was happy to shine my light within my own tribe, to help my own people... but I wanted nothing to do with that world out there that was so corrupt.

As I remembered that vision, it all started to make sense... part of me does not want to make money! And doesn't feel as though she fits into that system, and doesn't want to! But unfortunately, an even larger part of me calls me to reach more people, to grow, to thrive, to prosper... So there's my block, in the plain light of awareness:
 
I want to reach more people and make more money 
BUT
I don't want to be a part of that system, I don't fit in there and I don't want to 
I was able to talk to that former part of me - my American Indian sister - and coax her to forgive what happened. I let her know that in order to help humanity in these times, she needs to be a part of the money system, and needs to get out there and reach as many people as she can with her light and wisdom. So now she is my ally in getting out there and getting amongst it :)

Have you ever tried past-life regression?

Even if you don't know if you actually believe in past lives, or have never really looked into it... this kind of therapy can symbolically show where your blocks are and why, and give you an opportunity to put them to rest for good.

​Contact me to discuss how I can help you remember your past lives...

As you most likely understand by now, when you are feeling connected, abundant, appreciative and light hearted, you tend to attract good experiences to you - opportunities, windfalls, money from nowhere, synchronicities, fun people to interact with.

And then the opposite is also true... when you are feeling broke, frustrated, stuck and irritated, you tend to attract more of that - people, things and experiences are drawn to you which mirror those yukky feelings back to you.

You are creating your reality...

What I teach is how to maintain a good feeling on the inside, how to raise your vibration, how to access your inner guidance so that more often than not, you are in the flow, and are getting what you want.

You see, it doesn't matter what the outward circumstances of your life currently are... the LOA is responding to your attitude (your vibration), and that is what Life will mirror back to you...

You can live in a plush mansion and be deeply unhappy - think of all the movie stars who commit suicide... and you can live on the streets with nothing and experience ultimate feelings of bliss - Eckhart Tolle spent 2 years pretty much just sitting on park benches in a state of bliss, and look where he is now!... It's the thoughts in our head that make all the difference, not the stuff around us.

How much joy we can access in any situation depends on the goggles we are currently looking through... and we can change goggles anytime we like! This is called Mastery.
​
Here are some thoughts that I personally use to get my goggles of appreciation and abundance on, I hope they work for you too...

I have come so far in the last 2 years...
I am doing really well...
There's no hurry...
It's all happening in perfect timing...
As I relax, I enter the flow...
I trust this thing called Life...
It feels good to let go and trust...
It worked out before and it will work out now...
Life supports my spiritual growth...
No matter what happens, I'm going to learn, I'm going to grow and become a better person, and I'll know what to do...
My life is guided and protected...
I always have everything I need...
Almost half the world, HALF THE WORLD! live on less than $US2.50 per day...
I am so fortunate and grateful for all that I have...
So deeply, deeply grateful...
For my friends, my beautiful family, my work, the roof over my head...
I am totally content with what I have...
I am over-flowing with abundance...
The food in my cupboards, the people in my life, my ability to connect with my Source, my passions and hobbies, the internet, my garden...
So much abundance...
Everywhere!...
I see it everywhere...
And I'm truly grateful, and happy, and content...
I am humbled.
Thank you, thank you, thank you...



Remember that abundance and prosperity are not things... they are feelings... and there's a big difference.

When we realise that we can't control our outside circumstances and force things to happen, but we can learn to control our thoughts, feelings and attitudes... now we are entering Mastery.

Here on Earth, because of all the physicality around us... we think reality is real, and actually quite a solid thing.

For example, think of your sob story for a moment - the sad story of your life that you fall into sometimes that explains why you are a victim now and why things can never be better for you.

Yes, you can feel it... we all have one.

I invite you to write it down, have a whinge, get it out, look at it objectively on paper... part of you (or most of you) actually believes this, and thinks it is REAL REAL REAL. It's fact, it happened, it's a thing...

But notice the feeling that it brings up in your body.... that yukky feeling you've felt so many times before. Unfortunately this feeling has pulling power, and actually attracts the things you don't want - keeping you in a cycle that perpetuates the reality and beliefs of the sob story, making them seem all the more true and just.

That yukky feeling you feel about your sob story is demonstrating to you that you are out of alignment when you look at your life that way... How would your angels view the situation? What if you could see it all differently? With a different attitude? In a more empowering and enlightening way that liberated you rather than made you feel stuck?

This is what I did here with my money sob story, I wrote a new story with new perspectives and attitudes that made me feel better. There is immense power in this... Here it is...

​"I came from a reasonably well-off family and was never really lacking anything materially as a child. I got teased at high school for being well-off, and that made it seem repulsive and embarrassing to me.
​I rebelled as a teenager, thinking it was cool to be on the benefit, and that rich people were snobs. I felt acceptance from my peers because I was broke like them.
​I saved enough money to go overseas and I met my husband who I thought would be a good provider, but it turned out that his values were very different from mine, and as a result, I was financially stunted for the 11 years we were together. I didn't manage to get ahead at all or accunulate any assets of any monetary kind.
​I left that relationship, and am getting by with the work that I am have, but it always seems to be only just enough and I want more."

​And I upgraded this to....

​"I came from a well-off family with solid, secure parents and money was never a problem. I always had enough, and I had enough to go travelling and see the world a bit in my early 20's.
​I spent 11 years in a relationship that helped me to refine what I really want regarding my life, and it helped to connect me more with my authenticity and direction. 
I have now created a beautiful life around me - a wonderful home, beautiful children, my dream job, a soulmate relationship and I feel abundant!
​I realise that abundance is not about accumulating stuff, it's about the constant in-breath and out-breath of prosperity, and being in a state of knowing that more is coming.
​I am so grateful for everything my path has taught me. I am at peace with where I am and open for more."

​​Do you see what I did here? Same story viewed from a higher perspective... but which one feels better?

Do you see that if you change the story, upgrade it, raise its vibration... you are actually messing with reality! And that sob story that you thought was oh so real, actually starts shifting... and instead of feeling stuck, you start magnetising magic!

​Because the truth is, and this is the really important bit... reality is actually fluid. Not stuck in place like we tend to think sometimes... and things can change for you in an instant.

​When you remember that, dear Reader, oh my gosh what a difference it makes!!

​You don't need to unravel years of negative thinking in order to feel good now... no matter what circumstances you have come from in your life, you can do something, think something, read something, be grateful for something that makes you feel good NOW, and your have changed your vibration NOW, which is what "reality" is responding to NOW.

It doesn't matter what the details of your current situation are, the LOA is reflecting back your vibration... so you can be in poorest conditions with the most awesome attitude and mind-set and you'll be magnetising some pretty amazing stuff!

​Reality is fluid and it can change in an instant.

​Don't worry about the future or the past, just make yourself feel better now... and now.... and now..... and now.... and now..... and now.....

​And if you can't make yourself feel better, seriously, arrange an appoinment with me!!

You know, through my interactions with clients over the course of January, I keep getting the same theme relayed to me again and again. It's not a new theme, it's been around for a very long time, but now I'm really seeing how this consistent and deeply ingrained theme we have is the very thing we need to let go of if we are ever going to be able to truly shine, and live a soul-full, purpose-full, charmed existence.
Letting go of this tendency hugely raises the vibration of the planet and is actually how we begin to earnestly live a Universal life, in line with Universaly Laws, rather than living based on our past conditioning and the conditioning of the planet...

I'm talking about the longing to follow your passion / dream / true purpose, but feeling as though you can't leave your day job because you won't have any security.

Do you relate?

I can't believe how many of us are in this dilemma... literally feeling paralysed in any attempt to move forward, believing that we won't be supported. Instead, many of us settle for soul-sucking existences in return for money - we literally sell our souls!! And all because we don't trust that doing what we love will provide what we need.

I was wondering what course or workshop I could run that would target this phenomenon, and help to alieviate it, and I decided that there isn't a quick fix to this... I finally feel like I have overcome this tendency, but it's taken me years!!

I believe that this tendency goes right back to our original wound - the pain of being seemingly separated from our Source when we came into incarnation on this planet. We didn't have the conscious education about who we really are, and the space to know that for ourselves... instead we were programmed and conditioned to fit into the 'system' as it stands on Earth, a system constructed to benefit those in power, which is far, far from the reality of our Source, and designed to be that way.

As we lost touch with our true nature, our divinity... we lost trust in this thing called Life, because we started to feel separate from it. and instead we adapted ourselves to fit into the system. But deep inside we know who we really are and we long to reconnect with that. We long to be liberated from suffering a soul-less job and prosper in doing what we love, and the answer lies in slowly reconnecting ourselves back with our inherent wisdom, our Source... and recognising THAT as our true identity.

When you have the ability to connect with a feeling of truth, love and wisdom that is totally your own, you have become a sovereign being, and can now see outside of society's conditioning and your own childhood conditioning. This is the freedom that human beings are evolving to, and from this space, you will feel part of things and will trust that Life has your back... You will use your in-built connection with your Source to spark ideas that can provide the provision you need while doing what you love.

​How connected do you feel with your Source? With your own truth and wisdom?

I ​wanted to write to you today and reassure you about the important phenomenon of FEELING STUCK! We've all been there, and I bet 90% of you feel a tad stuck in some area of your life right now...
 
Here's an encouraging story for you if you feel that way, even just a little bit...
 
I recently worked with a client who was at the absolute end of her tether to do with her housing situation. She's in the middle of an unresolved EQC nightmare, and has been living in a tiny, damaged flat with her husband and 2 kids since the 2011 earthquakes. The past few years have been hugely frustrating, and just recently, after being outbid 3 times in a row at auction, the heartache of this ongoing, never-ending housing dilemma climaxed, and her ability to hold a positive frame of mind completley crumbled. So she came to me for help.
 
I guided her into a lovely feeling of relaxation, and helped her to connect with her higher-self, her positivity, her wisdom, a sense of flow again. She felt much better, and said that while she was in that state of connection, something happened...

She had an idea!

A brainwave! An inspiration! She couldn't believe she had never thought of it before! She came up with a way that she could greatly relieve the pressure of living in cramped, cluttered conditions while her family continues their quest for their dream home.
 
She left my place feeling uplifted, like she had her mojo back! I saw her a few days ago and her brilliant idea had come to fruition, and she was in a much calmer and brighter headspace about it all.
 
This story illustrates a very important phenomenon...
 
We only feel stuck because we are rooted firmly and rigidly in one headspace about something... we can be like a lion in a cage, going around and around in circles, over and over the same limiting thoughts and beliefs, not believing or trusting that there is actually more outside the cage. It's not until we elevate our consciouness to rise above and beyond the cage for a bit, that something amazing can occur...

We can have an idea!! Literally like a lightbulb has gone off in our brain, a ray of sunlight has illuminated a once dark room, angels and halos and hope and inspiration and clarity and a feeling of 'How did I not see this before' takes hold. It's all there... outside the cage. 
 
The great news is that all you need to get un-stuck, is an idea. That's it! It can take less than a second! But having the idea is the easy bit... its getting into the receptive, open, flowing state of mind from which the idea is born, which we struggle with and don't make the time for.
 
But I'm here to tell you that it is possible! And I've actually built a life and a career around getting myself into a conducive state of mind within which to have the great ideas and insights that keep my business flowing and growing. And I've experienced time and time again, the beautiful phenomenon of more, of miracles, of relief, of seeing through the illusion, of trust, of realising that there really is love and help there for me, I just wasn't letting it in! I was my own worst enemy! Usually out of fear.

​If you're stuck, you're not letting love in, remember that!! And do something about it!
 
Here are 3 simple ways to get into that receptive space outside the cage where we let ourselves become illuminated:

1. Recognise that you are going around in circles with your negative beliefs... watch yourself, and see the spiral. Now that you see it, tell yourself, "Even though I can't see a way out of this, I am open to miracles, I am open to ideas, it is my intention to let myself be helped and let love in!" And then let go of the problem in trust that a solution is on the way...
2. Do something fun! Laugh! Be a dork! Lighten up! Let it go! This will shift you out of the cage for a bit where new ideas and info can be seen by you.
   
3. Practice gratitude and appreciation. Sit down and write all the things you appreciate right now, keep going and keep going until you feel really good. When you feel really good - and only then - think of your problem from this new headspace and you will see it totally differently.
   

So many people are looking for their "Soulmate"...for a deep, connected love affair and friendship... for that perfect ONE. Whilst so many others are in long-term relationships that are deeply unfulfilling, and they are wondering what to do about that.... Leave? Stay? 
 
I've noticed there are not very many of us that are truly happy in our relationships!!
 
What's that all about?!
 
I shared with you a couple of weeks ago that I accidentally manifested a Soulmate relationship... and I've done a lot of thinking, meditation and study on this subject.... I'd like to share with you today my theory on how to attract your Soulmate, or upgrade your relationship.
 
The late Wayne Dyer says in his movie The Shift: "You don't need a date... (if you follow your authenticity, your Higher-Self)... everyone who comes into your life will come in on time, perfectly. You are a divine creation of God, you are a spiritual being. You don't need anyone else to confirm that."
 
My theory is similar... I believe that we have to make our own lives so juicy, so fulfilling, so much fun that we have no need for anyone to partner with us. We have to get on our path of purpose, remember our divinity, and be the best that we can be... then our REAL match will line up with us... or the person we are with will shift to be the person of our dreams, or they will leave so that our Soulmate can emerge.

Get sooooo engrossed in your own life and making your own dreams come true, releasing the need for anyone, ever... and your match will find you, will be irresistibly attracted to you. If you do this while you are with someone, it will soon become obvious if they can match you or not.
 
This is YOUR life! And as Byron Katie says, "You are your own life partner." How committed are you to living your dreams? Whether you are with someone or not? Remember, your dreams are your compass, they are guiding you in the direction of your purpose, so if being with someone is stopping you from reaching them, you need to ask yourself.... is it worth it?
 
Never be afraid of people leaving your life... keeping someone in your life out of fear is not love, it's attachment, and it generates misery. Letting someone go so you can both be happy is unconditional love.